On the muni traveling on 17th
1 hour late to the hospital even though
I set my alarm at three
a.m, no work but I’m not on vacation
Sitting in the bus looking outside
Surrounded by gentrification
An old Filipino lady next to me asking if I knew her uncle
I said no relation
Almost missed my stop, can’t even remember how to use public transportation 🤦🏽♀️
No paper and pen cause of technology advances
Nowadays kids can’t tell the difference with what’s on a screen to how real life bypasses
Using this phone, constantly looking down, pushing up my glasses
Should’ve got lasik, but if the doctors mess up
No second chances
Like I told my baby daddy years ago
No second chances
Like I told my ex, who don’t even know what his future plans is
Like I’ll tell my next relationship, mess up
No second chances
Cause half of these men out here don’t even know what real romance is
My backpack is full, while they’re over here half assin,
Now I’m just ramblin
Just trying to get to the hospital before
my daughter’s bone marrow transplant and
She gets second chances
Scrolling through Facebook reading comments from strangers,
Posting up prayers more than the ones
Who claim to be my one dayers
Next thing you know I’ll see a subliminal
two minutes later
After speaking the truth, as usual
another undercover hater
2 buses and a crowded train ride
Going up the elevator, 2 hallways down
straight to the right,
Laying in her bed, with a heart bigger
than her height
Hey baby girl, I finally made it, now let’s wrap this shit up and win this fight.
I haven’t posted much about my previous travels, I will soon, I promise, but to catch you up on some things, my daughter is suffering from Germinoma, which is a form of Brain Cancer. The severity of the cancer has taken her mobility and most of cognitive function away. She is also suffering from dementia caused by the cancer. Because of this, my daughter is now in a wheelchair and needs assistance when getting from point A to B. Sometimes she’s coherent, but there are days where she mixes me up with her dad or grandma. Sometimes she thinks it’s still June when it’s December. It seems like she’s a totally different person now and I am still coming to terms that she’s not the same. She’s not the Deyzha I knew a year ago who would go running 2 miles with me at the Waterfront.
In August 2018, she underwent brain surgery then she was diagnosed with cancer the month after. We only had two options for treatment. I chose the 2nd option since more kids with Germinoma responded to this treatment as opposed to the first option. On the downside, this specific treatment required 3 cycles of chemotherapy, 9 days straight of 3 high dose chemo drugs, stem cell harvest and a bone marrow transplant.
This treatment also required me to become a nurse overnight. At home I had to flush her central line once a day, draw her blood, and give her injections in the evening. And I HATE NEEDLES. I literally had to suck it up in just a weeks worth of training. I was scared.
I literally had to push my work and social life to the side so I could put all of my focus on her. Honestly, I never had any time to grieve, up until now that it’s almost over and our family can focus on her recovery. But I gotta admit, I have an occasional breakdown where I become a big overdramatic crybaby. You can’t blame me though. I went through a LOT. Anyway, the MRI before her most recent MRI showed that the cancer was going away. So I’m hoping that result still stands.
This is definitely not a trip to New York but it has been a journey. Which is why I decided to share this huge piece of my life with you.
Music was her therapy, the lyrics were her recipe
as the disease took over her body and her family
she sang her heart out until she could beat the enemy
Who took her mobility and her ability to shoot a three
Her chances to go to a University and become a chef like she wanted to be
All disappeared after Oncology revealed the answer
“Your babygirl has cancer and we don’t know how long you’re going to have her”
Three cycles of chemo plus 9 more days of toxic drugs
A bone marrow transplant then remain in isolation for a few more months.
Separated by a glass window from her little brother
Holding back my tears, trying to be strong cause I’m her mother
Her baby sister having to step up and play the big sister role
While I remind myself every minute of the day, that God is in control.
She’s going to beat this, if I say it out loud, I will speak it into existence
Even when I can’t be at the hospital, I will speak on it from a distance.
I’ve been studying the teachings of the 14th Dalai Lama lately and he mainly focuses on practicing the art of Compassion. What’s crazy is that the 14th Dalai Lama was chosen by a group of lamas and religious dignitaries after the death of the 13th Dalai Lama, Thubten Gyatso, who passed in 1933. When the 13th Dalai Lama passed away, his head was facing South then turned to the Northeast. This interpretation meant that he was facing towards the next reincarnation – the home of the 14th Dalai Lama. All this reincarnation stuff is crazy right?
Anyway, he speaks heavily about how important it is to be compassionate. Being compassionate isn’t just about caring for someone close to you, it’s also about caring for another’s well being, including strangers and enemies. It’s about helping and relieving ones struggles other than your own, even if that person pisses you off. Lol.
I’ve been a strong believer in Altruism all my life and some may say that I’m naive or I shouldn’t sacrifice my happiness before my own. But the truth is, it hurts me more to see someone else suffer. And if I feel that I can relieve someone else from their struggles, I will put them before me. It isn’t reciprocated often, but I rarely expect anything in return. I just feel that we are all human and we all face adversity at least once in our lifetime, some more than others. People may also see that being compassionate is a sign of weakness, but to me, I see it as a sign of strength. And if my kindness gets taken advantage of, it’s best to leave it in God’s hands anyway.
I have also been practicing Bodhicitta at least twice a day (Yes, TWICE! I might go 3! Lol) Bodhicitta is a form of meditation and it allows me to stabilize my mind before I start my day. Nothing is more difficult than taking a deep breath and visualizing all your negative thoughts then having to exhale it out. Lol. I’ve learned that it takes a ton of work, especially when you’ve been through hell and the end result is you wishing your enemies well. That shit takes hella hella practice which is why I do it when I wake up and before I close my eyes. 😂 All jokes aside, my inner Dalai Lama has helped me get through my most stressful days.
Anyway, I’ll post more about my spiritual journey at a later time. It’s 2am and I need to sleep but it’s too damn hot in my room.
I kept it super low key with my son today and took him to Easter Mass at our local church. The building was filled with people with some left standing the whole time.
I deactivated my Facebook and Instagram recently and I must say, it felt like a ton of weight off my shoulders. No more reading negative news on my feed, no more foodie pics, and I no longer have the satisfaction off laughing my ass off over hilarious memes.
I do however, miss posting the images from my Canon on Instagram displaying my trips to New York and showing off pictures of my kids. But from what my best friend tells me, I’m not really missing out on anything. Good.
The only access to social media I allowed myself to be on was Snapchat – with my 20 friends. Lol. I do continue to post on there because I feel it’s safer – with my 20 friends. There were way too many creepers on my Facebook list and I lost count on the amount of followers on Instagram. I received threats on Facebook through a new game Profoundly. This is a game where FB’ers can send you messages anonymously. I admit that I was terrified so I decided to take a break and deactivated my FB and IG.
I needed a serious break.
Trolls, I call them internet gangsters, get a kick out of pissing random people off. Maybe it’s out of boredom, maybe they have self esteem issues, or maybe they’re just plain psycho. Whatever it is, I don’t want to get caught up in it. I’ll probably never find out who sent me those threatening messages on Profoundly, but whoever it is, must have developed some deep hate towards me. And what scares me the most is that it could be someone I know or someone in my “circle”.
Anyway, I’m on Day 2 and have not been tempted to log back on. I deleted the apps on my iPhone and downloaded books to read on Kindle instead. This is totally out of my comfort zone since I’ve grown addicted to those sites. But I need to start reading more and be more productive outside of social media.
I do promise to get back to posting more of my travels. But I’ll save that for a later time. It’s time to focus on myself and tune out the world – temporarily.
Today, I made myself a refreshing drink for once. So here is an image of that. I’m just glad Mother Nature decided to bring out the sun today. Tired of the rain.
My mind has been going in different directions and I don’t even know where to begin. But I’ve held in my feelings for too long that it was starting to become self damaging.
I permanently cut ties with my ex-boyfriend the other day. I told him to never contact me again and I am glad that he respected my wishes. I thought it would be a good idea to maintain some kind of friendship with him, but his toxicity lead me to believe that remaining friends with him wasn’t worth it. Plus I was resentful for what he did to me in the past and what he did literally broke me. This was a man that ignored my calls when my car broke down in the middle of Oakland and disappeared when I found out that my daughter was ill. On top of that, he was cheating and discussing our relationship issues with other girls, without communicating with me first. When I felt at my lowest, he wasn’t there for me. So if he wasn’t there for me during that time in my life, what makes you think he would be there for me as a friend now? Some people are not meant to stay in your life. Ever since we broke up last year, I chose to live a fairly private life, especially in any kind of relationship I get into. I just chose to share this personal part of my life because it took me a lot of strength to let this piece of my past go. And I know my friends are like “It’s about fuckin time!” LOL
Amongst all the places I love to visit in San Francisco, it’s Clarion Alley. This alley lies between 17th and 18th Street in San Francisco’s Mission District and is known for its murals by the Clarion Alley Mural Project. I try to come here every few months because the artwork changes every so often. But I noticed that some murals have remained on some buildings for more than a year.
I stopped by the alley yesterday since I had some time to kill. After my short walk on Valencia Street, I decided to grab a prawn burrito and my favorite, horchata, at Pancho Villa Taqueria on 16th St.
Here are some photos that I captured during my walk. Some were taken from my Canon and the couple were taken with my iPhone.
The mural above happens to be one of my favorites! 😍
Hella Hella. ✊🏽
I have more photos but these are currently on my Top list of murals on Clarion Alley. Except for the exquisite painting of the woman below. I captured this while I was walking on Valencia Street. How beautiful is this? 😍